What would you change if you could?


How has your summer been, have you found chance to take stock of your life and things you’d like to change? When schools re-open after the summer break, it can feel like the start of a new year.

Are there negative patterns you’ve found yourself running or have you realised that positive habits have fallen by the wayside?

Changing aspects of ourselves that we don’t like requires self-awareness, effort, and a commitment to personal growth.

Here’s a step-by-step approach to help you make positive changes:


Self-Reflection and Awareness:

Start by identifying what specific aspects of yourself you want to change. This could be related to behaviour, habits, attitudes, or traits. Be honest with yourself about what you dislike and why.

Set Clear Goals:

Define clear and achievable goals for the changes you want to make. Make sure your goals are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART goals). This will help you stay focused and track your progress.

Positive Mindset:

Cultivate a positive mindset. Understand that change takes time and effort. Embrace self-compassion and avoid being overly critical of yourself.

Education and Resources:

Research and gather information about the changes you want to make. Look for self-help books, or online resources. An excellent place to start is with my secrets to happiness roadmap which will give you everything you need and guide you through the process.

Develop a Plan:

Break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps. Create a plan detailing how you will work on each aspect you want to change. This plan will serve as your roadmap.

Consistent Effort:

Consistency is key. Commit to making small, consistent efforts toward your goals each day. Change is gradual, and practicing consistently will lead to sustainable results.

Behavioural Changes:

If you’re trying to change specific behaviours or habits, consider using techniques like habit stacking, positive reinforcement, or cognitive-behavioural strategies to replace negative patterns with positive ones.

Seek Support:

Don’t hesitate to ask for support from friends, family, or professionals. Share your goals with someone you trust who can offer encouragement, feedback, and accountability.

Learn and Adapt:

Be open to learning from setbacks and failures. It’s normal to encounter challenges along the way. Instead of getting discouraged, view these as opportunities to learn and adjust your approach.

Celebrate Progress:

Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements along the way, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrating progress reinforces your commitment and boosts your confidence.

Patience and Persistence:

Changing oneself is a journey that requires patience and persistence. Stay committed to your goals and keep moving forward, even when progress seems slow.

Remember that personal growth is a lifelong process, and there’s no rush to become a different person overnight. The goal is to become the best version of yourself while maintaining a healthy and positive self-image.