How to take back control

I took two weeks off over Christmas which felt naughty, but I told myself how productive I’d be.

I was full of ideas about everything I was going to do, and all the jobs I was going to catch up on. I failed miserably, and I’ve spent the first few days of January cursing myself for being so lazy and having a complete break.

The truth is, I needed the break. I needed to still be sitting in my jimmy-jams at lunchtime, eating chocolate and watching trashy T.V.

So, it wasn’t a failure, it was a success. I spent a couple of weeks being very present and still, when normally I’m running around with a million things whirling round in my head. It turns out that I didn’t need to pay for a week’s yoga or mindfulness retreat; I just needed a reason not to go to work and a family sized box of quality street…….. I’ve saved myself a fortune.

But, if I let it, I can feel the guilt tip-toe in. It just taps me on the shoulder with predictions of imminent disaster.

It’s 30 years since I’ve felt anxious, but my brain will sometimes run ‘anxious’ programmes. Overthinking, guilt, and perfectionism are all elements that can lay the foundations for anxiety.


And that’s the point. There are ways to take control of anxiety in all its guises if you know how. Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and out of control should never be a regular feature in your life.

More than that, it’s important to learn how to spot the early warning signs. To develop an alarm bell that signals an alert before you start running negative patterns. At the first warning sign, you can nip it in the bud.

There’s no better feeling than being able to pull on your bossy pants and take control of that mean girl voice in your brain.

Here’s to you all pulling those bossy pants out of the drawer and giving your inner mean girl a proper pasting.

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