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Busting the main anxiety myths…

Anxiety

There are lots of myths around anxiety, how it works and how to stop it.

The problem with faulty information is that it will probably be stopping your recovery from anxiety.

My anxiety workbook is not only a perfect solution to anxiety but will explain exactly what will stop anxiety and what will maintain it. The workbook will be available to buy individually, very soon.

 

This is the first of the 2 most important myths……..

1. You need to understand the origins of your anxiety.

Just because analysing your past is interesting doesn’t mean it’s helpful.
 
And the reason comes down to one crucial distinction:
 
The initial cause of your anxiety is rarely the maintaining cause of your anxiety.
 
For example: Let’s say you can trace your anxiety back to your parents’ contentious divorce when you were 6 years old. That may well have been the event that triggered or set in motion your anxiety. But your parent’s divorce is not causing your anxiety right now as an adult.
 
Your anxiety is being caused by your habits in the present……worry and overthinking for example, or reassurance seeking. And until you address those maintaining causes, your anxiety will continue.
 
So, explore and process the origins of your anxiety in the past. But don’t make the mistake of thinking that will address what’s causing your anxiety in the present.
 
To change a reaction to a response, you have to learn (and practice) how to let your rational mind rather than your emotional mind be in charge.
 
 

The second most important myth around anxiety is:

2. Anxiety is just something you’re born with.

One of the most common things I hear from people who want to stop feeling so anxious is that they’re afraid it will never change because that’s just who they are…
 
  • I want to be less anxious but maybe that’s just how I’m wired?
  • My grandmother was anxious, my mother was anxious, maybe I’m just born anxious too?
  • I’ve always been an anxious person. I probably just have the gene for it.
 
Look, there is no anxiety gene that predetermines who will struggle with anxiety and who won’t. Nobody is born feeling anxious and overthinking everything.
 
Anxiety comes from learning and experience.
 
Either through modelling at an early age or experience, we develop certain habits like worry and avoidance that lead to long-term anxiety.
 
The good news is that what is learned can be unlearned. And no matter what happened in your past to create the habits of anxiety, it’s always possible to build new habits in the present.

 

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